How do GAY (not bi ) guys and up married with wife and kids?

how can they even perform sexually and act like they are attracted to their wife and then 20 yrs later come out and say hes gay or wants a sex change?how is that physically/sexually possible ?i understand bi people because they are attracted to both but gay i dont get.How do GAY (not bi ) guys and up married with wife and kids?
Because they probably try to convince themselves that they are straight and don't want to believe they are gay.How do GAY (not bi ) guys and up married with wife and kids?
homophobic society makes some gay men live a straight lifestyle.
They are in the closet because of fear of homosexuality, fear of rejection, many things. So they have a wife and kids to show a 'regular' straight guy.
because at one point before they bsolutely confirmed they were gay in their mind they probably did love their wife and kids. But once they realize that there is something/someone that makes them happier they can ';turn';(dont like that phrase by the way) gay. Or they just didnt want to face the rejection of society so they wanted to have a woman as a partner and it is not a matter of physically/sexually possible it is a matter if it is emotionally/mentally possible and it is
People believe what the want to believe so when a gay guy marries and goes through the motions (like an actor), his wife doesn't suspect anything unusual. She may have intuitive suspicions as the years go by but she pushes them aside if he is kind, funny, and a good provider.



Often, the guy does it for career reasons, i.e. money and success in an area that is not accepting of gay people. Like conservative politics, certain industries, some religions etc. It is a raw deal for the wife and children!! : {
The society makes them to be what they aren't. So they just leave in Denial till they can't take it anymore, then they come out.
a.)They feel like they need to pretend for friends and family

b.)They try to convince themselves they are strait
Part of it has to do with *changing* sexaulity. There have been several well funded studies that show that peoples sexuality sometimes does change over times. While women are more likly to change (even mulitpul times of the course of theri lives) some ';gay'; guys were actully straight when they first got married.



In addition, even the guys who were fully gay may have felt the desier or the need to ';live a normal life'; especialy decades ago, when there was less info, less support and more laws banning homesexual practice. Remember, at one point, being Gay was considered a form of mental illness. So, they hid, usualy they hid from themselves as much as from other people. Plus, some of them really wanted to be parents, even if they didnt really want the wife that went with it.



As for how they sexualy proformed? Some of them imaginded they were with someone else, others found that certain physical sensations would give them an errection no matter who proformed them and still others found othere tricks to get them through. Plus, some guys had no problems proforming even though they wern't really into who they were doing.



Being attracted on an emotional level usualy helped (ie- friendship, maybe even platonic love that they may have used in place of passionate love).
I'm assuming you are a woman? A man's gear can function with no one else present, so when someone is there providing stimulus, it's easy to get things going. It's also easy to visualize what we want, and that is stimulus enough to perform.



However, it is extremely selfish, and irresponsible to marry the opposite sex, when you are not honestly attracted to them. I don't support gay men who come out of the closet after ruining a woman's body through pregnancy, and wasting years of her life with his scam of a marriage. If he is gay, he should be gay. If he is straight, he should be straight. But no one has the right to wreck other peoples lives in the process.



Filid: How could they test people retroactively for heterosexuality? It does not seem likely that a study would survey a mass number of men, only to wait 20 years, and then survey again to find the small percentage that ';switched';, and survey them again. That would cost a huge sum, for very few results, after a very long wait. Can you provide a link to show what ';evidence'; they think they found?
It depends on the person.

Some men don't know until they lose sexual attraction to their wife - and start liking men later in life.

Some men grew up with un-accepting parents and people around them so they grew up thinking it was a sin to be gay - so thus they married, had kids, and suffered until they couldn't take it any more.





Every person has their own reason/story. :)