Monday, November 22, 2010

How do I get over my ex?

Here's the thing. He is hardly even an ';ex';. We were ';together'; if you could call it that for a couple weeks - he told me so and also told me we would go to prom together (this was years ago) - and then he proceeded to ignore me and ditch me and tell me he had always wanted to stay single and then he tried real hard to get back with his ex. Basically, he crushed me - I went to prom with a friend. Two years later, he has been contacting me saying he was stupid and that he's changed and he realized just what he lost and all this - but I'm in a new, amazing relationship now. I also recently gave him a chance to be friends but he took it too far by telling me he ';thinks he's in love with me'; and by calling me repeatedly in the middle of the night and trying to ';win me over'; from my current boyfriend. I then told him I never want to talk to him again and he hasn't contacted me since. But the thing is..... I still can't stop thinking about him!! Am I crazy?? I love my current boyfriend and would never break up with him for my ex - besides, I know it would never work out with him.... so how do I get over this???????How do I get over my ex?
Focus. Just focus on the boyfriend you have. I was in a similar situation once and I gave in to the guy a second time. He said he was changed and what an idiot he was to hurt me etc and to give him a second chance. So I ditched the guy I was with and used some excuse to start to see the former BF. Well he turned out to be an even bigger jerk than the first time around. Believe me you are better off with the one you are with. He is just interested in power. The power to jerk your life around and then dump you for some reason. He is without someone so he called you. Don't give in. Please. He will hurt you and he certainly doesn' t have your best interest at heart. He hasn't even called you to pursue you so doesn't that speak for itself. It is normal to think about them but hey, in the long run they are jerks. Move on.How do I get over my ex?
There is no magic way to make yourself forget somebody. Over the next few days or weeks you'll think less and less about him. If your current relationship is as wonderful as you state I wouldn't worry about this creep creeping back into your mind for too much longer. Besides, he only represents the big ';what if'; scenario we all go through from time to time. You know what I mean. ';What if I had stayed with him?'; ';What if I had gone this way instead of that?'; ';What would my life be like if I had met him earlier?'; That sort of thing. It's normal and will pass, as all things of this nature do.

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