I am the chaser, never the chased. How can I change this?

Hey guys,



I have never been chased by somebody. people have liked me, but I have had to do all the legwork which makes me feel self conscious and just tires me out. I have never had anyone actually make any effort to get me to notice them etc. I have massive self image problems due to bullying etc in my first secondary school (I'm in college now), and ever since my dad died I've relied on male affirmation to make me happy.



Apparently I'm attractive - people tell me that I'm beautiful and that they imagine that I must have masses of guys lining up to date me (obviously not true haha). Also, I have a good personality. People say they respect and admire me, and that I'm one of the nicest people they know. They like that I am easy to talk to, friendly, enthusiastic, blunt and down to earth and honest. I also have a good sense of humour.



It may well be that I am impatient. I tend to flip-flop form one guy to the next - if one makes me feel miserable about myself then I quickly move on, sometimes in the space of a week. If I like someone I waste no time finding out how they feel, because I can't stand holding onto something and not knowing if it's worth it or not. I leave no time for anything to grow. And if they do like me I end up making all the moves because I get scared that they'll get bored and move on.



I really want to be someone that guys do actually think of as attractive, and think ';Yeah, I'd like to date her.'; How can I be chased? how can I be patient? I get so scared, I just freak out! I don't know what to do :( Please this is getting me down so much! what can I do?I am the chaser, never the chased. How can I change this?
Just wait for the right guy. Once you've found him, you'll be glad that you're not being tempted and pestered by other guys. He'll come along sooner or later, for now though, just relax and enjoy being yourself. I'm sure you're an absolutely wonderful person. :)I am the chaser, never the chased. How can I change this?
Chop off your penis, maybe that'll make you more the girly-girl type that guys chase. Or accept youre a bit of a hunter, a slightly male woman (in personality), and you're probably destined to end up with a slightly effeminate man (maybe thats my theory anyway)



But it doesn't make you any less attractive does it?
If you are all the things you said you are then you will have no problem being chased just wait a bit for the right kind of guy to come along... :)
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Don't try to be noticed. Just be yourself and eventually someone will notice you who you would want to be noticed by. That's what I do.