Why can't I get into mommy mode?

I've been pregnant about 4 months and I'm 24 years old. I think this is a great age to be having a baby and my boyfriend and I are stoked to be having a baby together but I'm having serious trouble transferring from ';I'm young and love to go and do and drink and party and play'; into ';I'm about to be somebody's mother and should be focused on those things anymore';. Everyone keeps telling me that its not about me or my life anymore it's about my baby's and that I can't worry about what my friends are doing or my boyfriend and the life we used to have. I know and completely understand this. But life is so boring now for lack of a better word. I miss my life and I hate feeling this slight resentment for my unborn child. It makes me feel like a bad mom already but I can't help it. I think things will change once the baby is here when I'm so busy taking care of him, but for now I'm just pregnant and getting huge with not a whole lot to do other than work. Plus when I'm around really fit women I feel extremely insecure, especially when my boyfriend is present. I'm really hoping he doesn't start to feel differently about me since I'm no longer as fun as I used to be. I know this may sound immature and unreasonable but I'm just so unhappy at the moment. can't wait to be a mom, but how do I get into mommy mode? This does not always happen naturally as some may assume. How can I laugh and be happy again even with the drastic changes to my life? How do I change my focus from what used to be my entire life? (friends, boyfriend, etc..)








Also, please take it easy with any harsh comments. My hormones are raging and I cry at the drop of a hat :-( Just looking for some to relate or helpful positive reinforcement. Just need some encouragement. Thanks!Why can't I get into mommy mode?
once yuh have the baby everything will change. Yuh'll see everything is not about partys and chillinqq i mean yuh an still chill wit yuhr friends with yuhr baby in yuhr arms. And yuh'll have a bigger responsibility like showinq the baby places and things, like the beach, parks and everything else.


yuh dnt have to give up partying completely i mean yuh and your boyfriend can take turns going out on a friday. or something. Haveing a baby is a hole different type of fun.Why can't I get into mommy mode?
don't worry. my son is 5 months old and I still don't feel like mommy to him. i resented him while i was pregnat cause i couldnt be normal. just try your best and don't worry when people tell you '; youll fall in love with hime the mintue he is born and youll forget all the pain';.
this is totally normal to be feeling like this. I was 23/24 when I was pregnant too and ALL my friends are partiers without kids and it totally sucked to be around any of them. I can tell you that once I hit 6 months and really started to show that the whole ';mommy mode'; hit me. I painted my son's room and started buying stuff getting ready for him. I didn't really talk to my friends so much anymore (which I think helped out a lot). After I popped out I wasn't insecure about my body because it didn't just look like I was fat anymore (now after i had the baby that's a whole other story lol). Being pregnant is a rough transition. You will find that you will need to start looking for more ';mommy friends';, people whom you can relate to more and feel more comfortable talking too. In a few more months you will gain more energy and feel better about yourself.
Awww Im soo happy I read this I feel the excact same way...Im 33 weeks pregnant (yea almost done!!!) and im 20 yrs old...Its okay though WE ARE NOT BAD MOMS... We are prolly among the few that can be real about how we are feeling...AND OMG I HATE FIT WOMEN...LOL not really but Yes I have put on alot!!! I was at my dream weight and now look!!!lol but its all worth it in the end. this is my 1st and I just love him soo much that im willing to do whatever!! Enjoy this time you have with the baby...he will be here b4 you know it...And your boyfriend loves you...ALSO enjoy this time you guys have alone..it wont be the last but not as many...WELL I HOPE I BROUGHT YOU SOME SORT OF COMFORT...You are not alnoe...And mine is just around the corner..But everyday gets BETTER AND BETTER...








P.S I was/am(says hubby) a BIG crybaby!!! I DONT CARE!!!(and stop telling me to stop crying...I cant...lol)
You don't have to change your whole focus on life, just shift it some. You are a mom with new responsibilities, but you are still a young adult. You can't go out partying every night and blow off responsibilities, but there's no reason you can't go out once in a while and have fun with your friends or boyfriend. I try to make sure I have 1 or 2 evening a month where I go out with my friends or my husband, it's important to me. And it gives my parents a chance to watch my boys, which everyone enjoys. I spend most of my days working and being a mom/wife, but it makes my ';night off'; that much more fun.





I don't think you need to give up everything to be a great mom, you just need to set limits and boundaries so you are a great mom without losing yourself in the process.
How you are feeling is completely normal. Let's face it, before your pregnancy, your life was all about you primarily and b/f, friends, family, second.





Now, baby is No. 1 and you are maybe no. 2. It's a very difficult adjustment especially if you really didn't think about it all that much beforehand.





Of course you feel resentment, some alien form has taken over your body and your life in a drop of a hat. You didn't even have a chance to consider it -- it just happened.





Don't worry, it gets better, I promise. :) Just try and enjoy the special little life that is growing inside of you and maybe you can try and find things that are fun to do but don't involve partying, there are lots you know! You can still be fun and pregnant.





G/L!
the baby places and things, like the beach, parks and everything else.