Its my fault my boyfriend is way into porn?

i used to turn him down alot cause he would wait untill late at nite and i was always tired.. well now he is into porn way to much he watches it everynite and we have talked about it and he said its cause i turned him down so much that he had no choice... i told him that i was sorry and i hate myself for doin that to him and told him how i felt about the porn and he continues to tell me hes gonna stop and told me he was only gonna do it twice a week buts thats not happening... he keeps doin it every nite and he told me that the reason y he does it is cause thats what hes used to now and when we do have sex i notice that he dont stay hard anymore... he says that hes not attracted to me cause of my attituted and i told him the reason i have an attitude is cause of the porn... he told me that if my attitude changes and i stop bein such a ***** that he will get attracted to me again and want to have sex with me again... a couple weeks ago we had sex 3 times the whole week and he didnt look at porn once and i told him that the reason y he dont want sex that much anymore is cause he knows if we have sex alot he wont have to watch porn... i seriously dont think he wants to stop and ive read alot about that if ur boyfriend cares about ur feelings then he will stop... that isnt workin in my case cause my boyfriend says that he does care about my feelings but he says that i dont care about his... i do care about his feelings thats why im tryin to get him to relize what the porn is doin to him... i really think that even if i do change my attitude he still wont stop... he watched it before i met him like all guys do and even when we werent haven sex that much he wasnt watchin it everynite hes been watchin it everynite since we got our labtop and that was about 3 4 months ago and now it gotten even worse... like i said he said hes only gonna do it twice a week and he also said that he wouldnt hid it anymore but hes still hiddin it and deleting it from the history... there are days that im nice to him and dont have an attitude but he will still do it... i dont know what to do i love my boyfriend very much and i want to work this out but every time i try and talk to him about he says he dont wanna talk about it and that he dont have a problem and that iam the one with the problem... ive tried so hard to spice things up, i got a sex book with all kinds of positions but he just ignored it i have like 3 sexy nite gowns that he used to like me wearing them before we had sex but now lately when i wear them they dont seem to do anythin... i seriously feel like i cant turn him on no more and no matter if i jerk him off or give him head he wont get hard and sometimes when he does he wont stay hard and he dont stay hard when we have sex... he thinks he dont have a problem and i cant help him relize what its doin... he knows my feelings about it and everythin but i cant get him to change only he can but i really believe he dont want to i think he wants his porn more then me... sorry so long... any help will be great thanxsIts my fault my boyfriend is way into porn?
First of all you had the opportunity to prevent this, but by turning him down he found other methods of fulfilling his desire. Once you dismissed him, he went the direction of Porn. Now, he is a porn addict, and once an addict you just can't simply stop. He envisions all of the women in the porn, when long ago it was You he wanted. Now with all these images and visions of all these other women. Its hard to put you back in the front of his mind because now it's crowded with other women who were in the movies, and there (not physically or in real life, but there in his imagination and visually) when he wanted and needed him. Responding to your mates needs is how you keep each other together. Rejecting, ignoring, and neglecting always opens the door for either other people, habits like porn or drugs or something else to get in the way.

You speak to him, and you communicate and he may know your feelings, but it was your lack of action that put a gap between you. Feelings, Faith, and everything else won't matter unless backed up by actions, which we know speak much much louder than words, emotions, crying, and everything else. It was your lack of action that got this whole thing started. Now he's an addict and that will not be hard to stop.Its my fault my boyfriend is way into porn?
watching Porn and sex with you are not connected. If anything, that is why you watch porn, to make the actual sex better
It doesn't matter whose fault it is. The bottom line is: your bf would rather jerk off to porn than have sex with you. This is all you need to know to make a decision (hint: get rid of him)
First, you shouldn't be having sex because you aren't married.

Second, it is NOT your fault that your boyfriend is a pervert.

BUT it is your fault that you haven't dumped him yet.
He's addicted but there's treatment with therapy and effort he can beat this



There's help and support



http://www.no-porn.com/ %26amp; http://newlifehabits.com/



If he doesn't want to make the effort to beat his porn addiction dump him and move on for treatment to work he's got to want the help.



It's not your fault!!